Sometimes you just need a little boost.
5 Ways To Increase Self Confidence
I always hate it when people say, “Oh, you must wear makeup because you’re insecure” because that couldn’t be further from the truth. As you and I both know, makeup isn’t to hide our flaws or imperfections, it’s a way of expressing our creativity. Much like with painting, we’re able to create entirely new vistas and looks, but instead of using a canvas, we’re using our face. What would be more expressive than that?
But with that said, there have definitely been times when I’ve become too dependent on makeup, whether it be to boost my mood or hide an unsightly pimple (why, PMS, why?!). It’s times like these when all I want to do is crawl under my covers and avoid all human contact. That’s when I really need a boost in confidence, one not even makeup can give me.
We’ve all been there before and there will be moments in our life when we’ll be there again. In moments when you need a little pick me up, these 5 tips to increasing your confidence will be right there beside you guiding you towards your normal, happy self.
Here are 5 tips to being a more confident person today and everyday.
1. Repeat Affirmations To Yourself
There’s something about a positive intention that grounds and calms you. Affirmations are I Am or I Do statements that set an intention for the day (and it’s always best to take things day by day). On days when I’m feeling less than my loving, bubbly self, I look into the mirror and say, “I am a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman.” Then I end it with a smile because we so rarely see ourselves smile. Your affirmation can change day by day and can be anything you want it to be, but make sure you say it to the mirror and end it with a reassuring, comforting smile you would give a friend in need. After all, you are your own best friend.
2. Write Out Your Strengths
In moments when all confidence has abandoned us, it’s easy to think little of ourselves. We don’t think we’re funny, we can’t even imagine calling ourselves attractive, we can’t think of any positive traits we possess… Negative thinking has clouded our judgement, leaving us moping underneath a stormy, dark cloud.
In days when you can’t see anything good about yourself, take the time to sit down and, objectively, write out your positive traits and strengths. Obviously you’re great at makeup, but are you a good friend? Sister? Daughter? Do you also play the piano? Do you make people smile? Are you a fast runner? Everything, especially the little things, are accomplishments. Having your traits on paper solidifies them, making them more than just thoughts. It serves as concrete evidence of all the things that are great about you, great about your life.
3. Pretend Like Everyone Is Your Close Friend
Before we enter a room, we’ve either already made up our mind that everyone inside it is an idiot or the best people we’ll ever meet. This affects how we think they’ll treat us or even how we’ll treat them. Instead of going anywhere with any negative preconceived notions, mentally prep yourself with the encouraging thought that you’re about to see close friends you haven’t seen in a while and you couldn’t be more excited. When you finally get to your destination, you’ll be all smiles and happiness.
As hokey as this might sound, your mind is a powerful tool that can be used for evil or good and while it may seem to run away from you sometimes, you ultimately have the power to control your thoughts and reactions.
4. Do Something You’re Good At Once A Day
This is especially important in the age of social media. With everyone posting pictures of what they’ve done, are doing, or the great lives they live, it can be easy to feel like you’re not doing anything at all. This couldn’t be further from the truth. To keep up and increase your confidence, do something you’re good at once a day, every day. If you’re great at playing an instrument, take 30 minutes out of your day to reconnect with your talents and abilities. If makeup is your forte, play around with fun, new looks. Doing something you love and are good at can only make you feel better about yourself.
5. Surround Yourself With Loving, Supportive People
This is the most important tip I can give you. You are the people you surround yourself with, so if you’ve surrounded yourself with negative people who take pleasure in criticizing others, you in turn will become a negative, judgmental person.
Choose friends that are positive and uplifting, those with traits you’d want for yourself. By choosing positivity, you’ll increase your confidence and brighten your outlook on life.
Sometimes we forget that we deserve happiness, so while negative thinking is commonplace, train your mind to think positively and you’ll increase your confidence in the long run. Love yourself, ladies!